Self-Doubt usko kahte hain Kabhi-kabhi sab kuch aata hua bhi lagta hai, phir bhi dimaag kehta hai
“Shayad main itna capable nahi hoon.”
Isi feeling ko self-doubt kehte hain.
Iska matlab ye nahi hota ki aap weak ho. Aksar ye un logon me hota hai jo responsible, sensitive aur self-aware hote hain. Iske peeche aadat nahi, balki psychology ka role hota hai.
Self-Doubt Kya Hota Hai?
Iska ka matlab hai
apni ability, decisions aur worth par bharosa kam hona, bina clear proof ke.
Isme:
- confidence slow ho jaata hai
- decision lene me delay hota hai
- insaan apne potential se kam perform karta hai
Psychological Reasons
Childhood Conditioning
Agar bachpan me:
- zyada criticism mila ho
- baar-baar comparison hua ho
- praise kam mila ho
to dimaag ek belief bana leta hai:
“Main enough nahi hoon.”
Ye belief adult life me har challenge par activate ho jaata hai, chahe reality kuch aur ho.
Past Failures Ka Impact
Human brain safety chahta hai.
Ek do failures ko wo general rule bana leta hai.
Isliye dimaag bolta hai:
- “Pehle nahi hua, aage bhi mushkil hoga.”
- “Risk mat lo, dubara hurt hoga.”
Ye self-protection mechanism dheere-dheere self-doubt me badal jaata hai.
Negative Self-Talk
Jo awaaz hum apne aap se baat karte waqt use karte hain, wahi self-talk hoti hai.
Agar ye awaaz hamesha bole:
- “Tumse nahi hoga”
- “Tum kam ho”
- “Log tumse better hain”
to dimaag ise sach maan leta hai.
Negative self-talk seekhi hui aadat hoti hai, natural truth nahi.
Social Comparison
Social media aur real life me hum:
- Dusron ke results dekhte hain
- Apni struggle se compare karte hain
Isse lagta hai:
“Sab aage nikal gaye, main hi peeche reh gaya.”
Ye comparison self-doubt ko aur strong bana deta hai.
Low Emotional Support
Jab appreciation, encouragement aur emotional support kam milta hai, to self-belief weak pad jata hai.
Insaan dheere-dheere external validation pe depend karne lagta hai
aur jab wo nahi milta, to badh jaata hai.
Perfectionism
Perfectionism sunne me achha lagta hai, lekin reality me ye self-doubt ka strong reason hai.
Perfectionist log:
- har kaam me 100% sure hona chahte hain
- chhoti galti ko bhi failure maan lete hain
Isliye dimaag bolta rehta hai:
“Aur better ho sakta tha.”
Ye cycle self-doubt ko kabhi khatam nahi hone deti.
Brain Level Par Kya Hota Hai?
Brain ka fear system (amygdala) zyada active hota hai.
Isse:
- dimaag danger feel karta hai
- confidence se decision lene me dikkat hoti hai
- overthinking badhne lagti hai
Isliye sirf thought nahi, brain response bhi hota hai.
Kaun Log Zyada Self-Doubt Feel Karte Hain?
- sensitive log
- responsible log
- intelligent & analytical log
- emotionally aware log
Ye weak logon ka sign nahi hai.
Ye zyada sochne wale logon me common hota hai.
Conclusion
Self-doubt aapki capability ka proof nahi hota, balki aapke dimaag me bani hui ek conditioned soch hoti hai. Ye soch bachpan ke experiences, past failures, comparison aur negative self-talk se dheere-dheere develop hoti hai. Isliye jab self-doubt aata hai, to iska matlab ye nahi hota ki aap kamzor ho, balki ye is baat ka signal hota hai ki aap zyada sochne aur cheezon ko seriously lene wale insaan ho.
Psychology ye batati hai ki self-doubt tab strong hota hai jab hum apni feelings ko samajhne ke bajay unse ladne lagte hain. Jab hum khud ko baar-baar judge karte hain, to dimaag threat mode me chala jaata hai aur confidence kam ho jata hai. Lekin jab hum apne thoughts ko observe karna, challenge karna aur unke saath practical action lena shuru karte hain, to dimaag ko naya evidence milta hai — aur wahi evidence self-belief ko dobara build karta hai.
Ye bhi yaad rakhna zaroori hai ki confidence pehle se ready nahi milta. Confidence action lene ke baad develop hota hai. Chhote-chhote steps, daily efforts aur apni progress ko acknowledge karna self-doubt ko dheere-dheere kam karta hai. Comparison chhodkar apni journey par focus karna, self-talk ko supportive banana aur emotions ko suppress karne ke bajay express karna is process ko aur asaan bana deta hai.
Aakhir me, self-doubt ko khatam karna goal nahi hona chahiye. Goal ye hona chahiye ki jab self-doubt aaye, tab bhi hum rukें nahi. Jab aap doubt ke saath action lena seekh lete ho, to self-doubt apni power khud hi kho deta hai. Aur wahi point aapki real mental growth ki shuruaat hota hai.
Haan. Kabhi-kabhi aana bilkul normal hai.
Agar action na liya jaye, to haan.
Completely nahi, lekin manageable zaroor ho sakta hai.